There was always a constant worry as to what was happening with John and the kids when I was not around. It seemed like every time I left a room one of the kids claimed that John had put his hands on them, and he would always deny it. Of course, I'd seen him … Continue reading The Black Eye
It's amazing how threatening a subtle comment can be when you have a history of abuse lurking behind it. I imagine that if a stranger overheard the things John said to me that I knew were meant as a threat, they might think that it was innocent.... that I was overreacting... and that is what … Continue reading John’s Character
John became less and less cooperative as we progressed through the divorce and remained in the same house together. He continued to twist everything I said and did to try and make me doubt myself. I'm not sure why I engaged in conversations with him about the divorce. Perhaps I still thought that I might … Continue reading Is it Abuse?
Spending time with my children has always been a source of joy for me. There was never enough time during the week because we were always running around to different appointments after school and work. The weekends were precious, uninterrupted family time that I treasured. One weekend John asked me if I'd go with him … Continue reading The Party
I am a person who believes strongly in modeling kindness through my actions and teaching the next generation the importance of being kind to one another. As a teacher I run school wide assemblies and programs to help students understand the impact being kind can have. With my children I have conversations and read books … Continue reading Kindness, Not Weakness
I've been doing a lot of reading recently about domestic violence. Gas lighting is something that keeps getting my attention. I had never heard this term until after I was already in the process of getting a divorce, but I lived it for 14 years. John was always trying to make me feel like all … Continue reading Why Do We Question Ourselves?